For instance, I dress up privately but not publicly. As much as I wish I could walk down the street in leggings and a tunic, that's not a real option for me. On the other hand, there are benefits to dressing privately that aren't available if you need to wear clothes out in public. For example, I can buy clothes that don't fit exactly right, enjoy wearing them, and not worry about someone spying an open zipper or split seam. Or I can buy clothes that are inappropriate in some way and not worry about someone pointing that out.
Today, I bought the cutest little dress in pink polka-dots at a thrift store for $3. Three dollars! It will give me great joy to wear it. Of course, a dress like this is age-inappropriate for me and, in public, people would look down on an old person wearing such a youthful frock. But the dress is pretty, fun to wear, and I don't need to worry about the opinions of others.
Recently, I faced another problem and just arrived at a solution. I'm a frugal person and rarely spend money on myself. I generously give to others (which makes me happy) but almost never give to myself. On the other hand, I've learned that depriving myself isn't healthy so, on special occasions, I splurge and treat myself to something I enjoy.
I've been admiring an attractive white leather handbag for weeks. (Shown above.) It was in a store-window in my town on prominent display. I wanted to hold it and pose in front of a mirror with it. But... how could I justify buying a bag when I'll never really use it? Holding it is one thing; filling it with stuff and carrying out in public is another. The latter option isn't available to me, and I was feeling deprived about not getting the former.
Then, a brilliant thought suddenly occurred to me -- how about I buy it, get the pleasure of holding it, and then give it away to someone who will actually use it? That makes sense. I can get my pleasure from it and then let someone else benefit from actual use of it.
So... I bought the bag today and am going to give it to one of you. There are only a small handful of readers of my blog and I like all of you. It will please me for one of you to get the bag.
I'll follow the convention of blog-gifting. Leave a comment between now and Monday saying you'd like to receive the bag. On Tuesday, I'll do a random-drawing of those interested and notify the lucky winner that day.
Of course, the bag is brand-new and never used, just loved a little. Help me rationalize this silly purchase, okay?
(BTW, the bag is made of multiple pieces of overlapping leather, so the flower on front looks three-dimensional. It's really pretty.)